It’s amazing how simple the whole idea can seem. I mean, most people who have been into self-development for even a short while will acknowledge that it is our thoughts about reality that create our perception of reality. It is one of the first things you learn, thoughts become things. What most of us don’t realize is that we already behave as if thoughts ARE things. We give our thoughts a reality of their own by feeding those thoughts our emotional energy, making them feel even more real to us. Now it isn’t so much of a problem when our thoughts are of positive experiences. Positive emotions feel great and are even good for your health, however, in truth, most people rarely think positive emotions. Even if you try to think positively, it’s inevitable that at some time during your day, it could be any time, you will feel a reaction to a thought and that reaction will most likely be negative. Anything from annoyance to anger, or maybe depression.
Usually, a whole story will unfold in your mind of how terrible everything is and you will end up in a bad mood. What do when you are feeling bad? Maybe watch some tv? How about eat? That is a big one for me. Some people drink, others take drugs, some people play video games or watch internet porn. Anything to get your mind off the negative stories you got running through your head. We all do it to one degree or another. And we do these things and then maybe we feel terrible about having to do them to feel better. You start shoulding all over yourself. I should be in better shape. I should have the will power not to drink. I should be working instead of playing video games. You know how it is. And it can be even worse for those of us who have studied self-development. After all, we KNOW that our thoughts create our world. We should be able to create the positive reality we long to have. That was another big one for me. The problem is, we are so conditioned to believe that our thoughts and feelings are real, that it rarely occurs to us that we can just let the thoughts go.
Just let it go. I am sure you have heard that before as well. And if you are like me, you said, “sure, just let it go, it can’t be that simple” so you go on thinking that thought and nothing changes. I thought that too, and nothing really changed for me no matter how much I visualized, affirmed, wrote out goal lists, created vision boards, or listened to hypnosis tapes, I just got the same results. Then after a series of coincidences, I was given to read a book called, The Sedona Method, by Hale Dwoskin. In this book Hale describes a simple method to release your negative thoughts. By simply asking yourself a few yes/no type questions, you can release all the negative emotions you have about a thought. Once you release your emotions about something, there is nothing to struggle against. You gain a clarity of mind that allows life to simply flow. You can do a release on anything in your life that has some negative emotions tied to it. It has been most valuable for me in releasing my emotions about relationships and marriage as well as my emotions surrounding money and success. What really surprised me was the effect releasing had on my goals. I had always heard and read that it was impossible to achieve your desires without a goal list. Every gook on success and achievement recommends writing out a list of goals, both small and large, even impossible goals! What I didn’t realize before I started doing the release work, was that each goal also had within it a seed of dissatisfaction with life as I perceived it to be. I wanted a big house by the ocean because I thought that was the kind of home a successful person lived in. I also thought it would impress my friends and family. That was a big one! The same went for my goal of having a six figure income. I wanted it because I thought that it would be enough so I wouldn’t have to worry about money again. I could afford to take vacations and buy what I wanted without having to feel guilty about making an extravagant purchase.
When I finally released all those emotions that were at the heart of my goals, I felt an immense sense of relief! Like a big weight had been lifted off of my shoulders. I realized that things were fine as they were. In this moment, my life is good and I am happy. It was enough. I didn’t have to struggle to achieve my goals any more. The goals that I only wanted in order to impress others or feel better about myself, I let go. I now have new goals that have little to do with money, but I have no doubt that because I am pursuing my true passions without resistance, that the money will follow abundantly. Unless it doesn’t, either ways is fine. My life now is filled with projects instead of goals. With a goal, you don’t succeed unless you achieve it. With a project, you work on it every day. It’s a process and as long as you continue the process, you succeed. Its only if you stop the project do you fail. So projects are a much better way for me to work on my passions and stay present to the moment.
If you are curious about what the process of the Sedona Method involves, then either check out the book, or stay tuned for my next blog post and accompanying video that will show you the basic Sedona method technique for releasing.
Until next time.